Book
Sometimes You Should be Late
The quiet rebellion of slowing down in a world obsessed with speed
Coming July 7, 2026!
This is a book about choosing how we move through time.
In April 2025 I wrote a Psychology Today article sparked a wave of resonance (“If I hadn’t let myself feel rushed, I would have been a far better parent.”) and plenty of pushback (“Aren’t you just justifying flakiness?!”). Since then, dozens of conversations have convinced me that slowing down is central we can create the kinder, more caring, and less lonely world we all crave.
Sometimes You Should Be Late is for anyone who’s done with pretending that speed equals virtue and feeling ashamed when life (and traffic) doesn’t fit neatly into a schedule. This book rejects absolutes: it won’t justify flakiness but it also won’t validate those that say “if you’re not early, you’re late.” Instead it’s about becoming more aware of the inherited stories about time and choosing, together, to align our behavior with our values, not the clock.
This book will...
Help you feel seen.
It’s easy to feel alone and lonely when the world is moving fast
- You’ll discover language for the pressures you’ve carried for years: the panic when running late, the pull to be everything for everyone, the constant hum of urgency beneath daily school/work/family.
- You’ll feel validated both for your reliability and your longing to move through the world with more care, spaciousness, and sanity.
- You’ll realize you’re not the only one quietly wanting to rebel against the pace of modern life.
Give you practical tools for busy lives.
Slowing down is really hard, especially when pressures of work, school, and family and life rear their heads.
- Reflection prompts that help you notice your own patterns — not mine, not society’s — but yours.
- Authentic communication tools you try out right away: simpler apologies, less blaming traffic, fewer shame spirals.
- Four practical chapters to help you honor buffers, slow down when you’re late, communicate authentically, and waiting without, well, waiting.
Empower you to influence the cultures you’re part of.
It’s easy to feel like we are victims of broader cultures, but we slow rebels co-create them, too.
- Concrete ways to question default ways of moving through time and set healthier expectations.
A four-part Annex features with real-life experiments for family, friendships, work, and school, the places where the pressures of time come out—but also where change is possible